Planning a wedding is one of life’s most stressful tasks. Making a big move is also one of life’s most stressful tasks. Trying to do both simultaneously? Is it masochistic?
Though it seems like a lot to take on (and it truly is), more and more engaged couples ready to begin their lives together find themselves home-buying and wedding planning at the same time. If you’re in this boat, here are some tips for making it go as smoothly as possible.
Delegate, delegate, delegate
More than any other time in your life (apart from child rearing, possibly), now is the time to rely on your friends and family for support. But support isn’t enough. You also need their help. You should resist the urge to try to handle everything yourself (a strong urge among detail-oriented people) and instead delegate the many tasks associated with both wedding planning and move planning. Movers.com suggests keeping the two major tasks as separate from each other as possible.
The delegation can be even more wholesale if that works for you. Some couples may have success splitting up the tasks altogether – one person handles the wedding planning and the other handles the move planning. As it is with any aspect of a relationship, communication here is key.
Get some professional help
Your friends and family are only partially able to help you with the never-ending tasks involved in moving and wedding planning – and to be frank they likely don’t have the skill set to help with everything. You may be trying to save as much money as you can during this busy time, but when it comes down to it your time may be worth more than you think. Wedding planners and other event coordinators have that job for a reason – they’re good at it.
And if you’re moving, there’s a good chance that you’ll need to do some renovations to your new home before you move in. A homeowner in the Atlanta area, for example, can get a bathroom renovation done for $6,157 – $15,961, according to HomeAdvisor. If you try to do it all yourself, you’ll probably take much longer and may end up spending more.
Don’t get caught by an address change
One of major bonuses of a wedding are the wedding gifts. Moving during a wedding can create confusion and inconvenience – you don’t want a ton of gifts shipped to your old home. Brides.com suggests either telling your wedding guests to hold off on sending presents until after you’ve completed your move (you can send out reminders once you’re settled in) or have the registry list one of your parents’ homes as the shipping destination.
Postpone your major financial decision on the home until after the wedding
As Glamour magazine points out, cash gifts from a wedding can be substantial and can even change the trajectory of a young couple’s life. You may be able to make a significantly larger down payment on your new home post-wedding. Or, you may not have factored your total wedding costs accurately and wind up more strapped for cash than you thought you’d be. Either way, it may be best to get the wedding over with before making a final home-buying decision.
As a final note, it’s important to have fun throughout this seemingly stressful endeavor. You’ll probably never get to experience the thrill of starting fresh with a new spouse and a new home at the same time. It’s hard, but it’s thrilling. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, hire help, and make sure you don’t over (or under) extend yourself financially.
Photo Credit: Matan Segev, Raw Pixel
Contributer: Alice Robertson