The reception is undeniably the best and most memorable part of an Ethiopian Wedding. Great food is served buffet-style, including staple dishes such as Injera (Ethiopian spongy bread), Doro wot (a spicy stew made with chicken and eggs), and Kitfo (raw minced beef mixed with butter and spices). After dinner, the couple accompanied by their friends and family will dance to modern and traditional music followed by the cake cutting ceremony and champagne toast. To end the night, elders are seated in a row as the couple and their wedding party bow down to kiss the elders’ knees (which is a sign of respect in Ethiopian Tradition).
Melse is the post-wedding celebration and takes place a day after the wedding. During the Melse, traditional clothing is worn; Habesha Kemis for women and Habesha Libs for men. The Bride and her party will spend several hours getting their hair braided and getting bridal henna tattoo accompanied by a LOT of gold to accessories.
The Melse is an intimate celebration for close family and friends. Again, there will be traditional Ethiopian food(injera) served accompanied with Tej, which is a traditional beverage made with fermented honey. The bride and groom will conduct a bread cutting ceremony which represents their unity as newly-weds, and family and friends enjoy dancing and celebrate the newly married couple while having Buna(coffee) during a traditional coffee ceremony.
As if two days weren’t enough, The Melse is followed by a third event called Kelekel, which takes place on the third day of the wedding. This tradition is dedicated mostly to extended family who could not attend the main ceremony. This also gives everyone a chance to come together one last time before they bid the newlyweds farewell.
- Ethiopian culture is very rich. If you enjoyed this post, comment below and tell us what country you would like to explore next.
Most believe it’s hard enough preparing for one wedding. . . How about 3? And this doesn’t even include the pre and post-wedding festivities. Ethiopian weddings are one of the most elaborate and exciting to attend. What can I say… we look for reasons to celebrate and weddings happen to be the biggest celebration.
It all starts when a man loves a woman lol. Seriously though, traditionally, when an Ethiopian man decides he wants to marry, he doesn’t propose the American way. He gathers some of the older men in his family and goes to the bride’s home to ask her family for their daughter’s hand in marriage. The older men will highlight their son’s attribute and why he will make a great husband. If the family accepts, the wedding will be planned.
Next, there is Telosh, which is a wedding custom held at the bride’s family’s house two days before the wedding. The groom and his family bring various gifts to present the bride. These gifts often include a wedding gown, traditional clothing, and jewelry.
On the wedding day:
- The groom and his groomsmen get ready at the groom’s house and head over to his bride’s home.
- Once they arrive, a musical exchange between the bride’s family and his groomsmen will take place as they block the entrance to the home.
- Once they have serenaded their way in the house, the groom will then escort his bride out of her parents’ home and head to their place of religion, where the exchanging of vows takes place.
Wanna know what happens next??? Tune in later this week for Part II
Are you looking for creative last-hurrahs to celebrate a bride-to-be? When you’re planning an amazing final fling, it can be tempting to get carried away with your spending. Read on for bachelorette party ideas that are not only brilliant, they’re budget-friendly.
Getaway as a group
Little could be more fun than gathering your closest friends to spend a couple days away celebrating together. But how do you organize a destination bachelorette event without overspending? With that in mind, consider sorting through what’s available on Groupon. There is fodder for all sorts of entertaining fun, from trips to Cirque du Soleil, to music concerts, to comedy clubs, to the classic bachelorette selection – male strippers! If you find a good fit, amp up your savings by using Groupon coupon or promo codes.
Since everyone is prepping for the big day, a day spent pampering yourselves can help you all look your best and go into the big event feeling relaxed and confident – and besides, it’s great fun!
Consider starting out with a trip to the spa so a professional massage can soothe away tension and stress. Add to that an at-home facial, and faces will be glowing and healthy for the upcoming event. Pronounce Skincare points out you can even DIY skincare products using natural ingredients, which is not only kind to your body, it’s kind to your wallet. Sip some wine and nibble cheese while you work, but don’t get too carried away until after you do manicures and pedicures to round out your party – and review these tips to ensure your results are top-notch!
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Sip and savor
Events centered around crafting something fun while doing wine tastings are all the rage. You can find everything from personally-tailored candles, to pottery throwing, to painting canvases. In the end, you not only have fun with your gal pals, you have a unique item to take home with you. Another idea is to hit an area winery so you can savor the time focusing on your friends. Many wineries offer tours, events, and other experiences, so explore your options!
So that everyone can let their hair down, consider hiring a chauffeured limousine to travel in style. Nationwide offers a broad selection of limos and packages, and you can check out their current specials and promotions to ensure you make the most of your money.
Is it tea time?
Does the bride-to-be favor classic elegance? If so, little can compare with an afternoon tea party. Outfit the party space with fine china and silver, and to fully embrace tea party tradition, The Spruce suggests a menu of both sweet and savory foods and brewing a proper pot of tea. You can even add some fun and mystery to the event by reading tea leaves for each other!
The last thing you want is to use inferior tea for your special tea party. When gathering tea and other supplies, consider shopping with Camellia Sinensis, where you can not only find top-notch tea and related products, they offer free shipping to anywhere in the U.S. and Canada.
Before the bride’s big day, take time to celebrate everything that was and everything that will be. Think through your perfect party, whether it’s a getaway, spa day, or sipping a favorite beverage. With a little bit of planning, everyone can have a wonderful time without overspending!
When we go to a wedding I think it is natural to assume there will be adult beverages being served. But did you know that there are multiple versions of bar options?
Tips are never obligatory―they are supposed to be expressions of appreciation for a job well done. That being said, unless the service was terrible, would you walk away from a restaurant table without leaving one? I’m certain that most of you answered no to that question. However, believe it or not the same applies to weddings. Again, while tips are not expected; they are certainly appreciated.
Beyond the customary tips, when someone goes out of his way for you―the pastry chef makes those last-minute tiny changes you requested for the cake or adds a last minute delivery to a busy Saturday; the deejay starts playing music 45 minutes early to accommodate guests that arrived early to “Get a Good Seat” or were traveling with a member of the bridal party―consider thanking them with a gift certificate, a bottle of wine, or another token of appreciation. If you’ve sat with your wedding planner hour after hour, she’s scheduled meetings with you on her off days, and made certain your four legged furry baby made it home to a family member after the reception; you might want to add a personal thank-you note and small gift to her customary tip.
For those of you that would like to tip your wedding vendors, but don’t know what is customary, here is a little cheat sheet excerpted from Kate Lynn Nemett’s post, “A Bride’s Guide to Tipping Wedding Vendors“
- Photographer & Cinematographers | $50-$100 per person, or a personal gift
- Wedding Planner | $50-$100, or a personal gift
- Caterer | 15-20% of your total bill
- Waitstaff | 15-20% of labor costs on your food and drink bill
- Bartender | 10% of total liquor bill
- Florist | Florists generally do not expect a tip, but if you really love their product and efforts, consider giving a tip for 10-15% of your total floral bill.
- Hair & Make-up | 15-20% of your total amount paid to him or her (just like at a salon!)
- Transportation | 15-20% of your transportation bill
- Band | $20-$25 per musician
- DJ | $50-$100
- Delivery Personnel | $5-$10 per person
- Officiant | Around $100 is an acceptable tip for an officiant, particularly if he or she is providing a service free of charge. If he or she works for a religious institution and cannot accept a tip directly, consider a donation to the organization instead.